Why I Chose To Blog For Compassion

 

When I was growing up as a little girl, I would always see videos and images of children around the world who were in poverty, and it would break my heart. I couldn’t stand the sight of looking at those fragile bodies suffering from lack of proper nutrition, food, and clothing. My heart literally cried out from within, wishing that I could help them all. I told myself that when I got old enough and able, I was going to sponsor a child.

For years, I was a skeptic about doing it. I had heard that those kinds of programs were a scam. And so I worried about someone stealing from me. I even worried about what my family would say if they knew I had decided to sponsor a child from another country.  After my daughter died back in the year 2004, I was standing in front of the television in my living room when another World Vision commercial had come on.

Once again, my heart couldn’t take it. So I immediately picked up my phone and became a child sponsor.

 

 

Finally, I had peace, and I was happy to know that I was contributing to making another child’s life brighter. I had children of my own at the time. I couldn’t imagine if it were my own children being in such predicaments.

To make a long story short, my first child sponsored was a boy. Then I came into some hardships financially and had to stop sponsoring him. When I was able to do it again, I went back for him, but he had already had a new sponsor. So, I gained a new sponsored child; a girl.

I came into some financial hardships again and had to stop sponsoring her. It broke my heart to have to give up sponsoring children for a while. I prayed unto God and said that there had to be something I could do. There had to be another way. 

 

 

While on the internet one day, in my search for another way, I came across the words, “Blog for children in poverty.” At first, I was like, that can be done, really?  I had never heard of such a thing. So I decided to dig a little deeper to see just what was required.

Without hesitation, I signed up and became a blogger for children in poverty with Compassion International. I figured that if I was not financially able to sponsor children as my heart desired, I could raise awareness of their need to be sponsored until I am able to sponsor a child again. Here’s a little excerpt from my Become a Compassion Blogger’s Page.

I feel so privileged to take part in such a great cause. Our children are our next generation. They are the ones we will be passing the baton of the Kingdom to. Wherever they are, whether in Africa, Asia, Latin America, God desires to use them for His kingdom. I remember growing up, not having everything I wanted. But never was I in any situation as some of the children who are in other countries.

Over the years I have realized that we, here in America, are blessed more than we realize. We have so many resources that we can use to bless the life of someone else. Why not become a sponsor to give another child life and hope? Would you miss the money once it’s gone? If you kept it, what would you spend it on? I have been a witness (having done it myself) to people having money and blowing it on things they didn’t even need. They spend it because they have it. But why not save it and use it for a good cause? Why not give to a child in need?

 

Are you a blogger? If not sponsoring a child, how about joining the Compassion Bloggers team. We would love to have you. Think about it. Pray about it.

 

 

 

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Be That Woman – The Woman Strong

A Woman of Weakness

 

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We are not independent! Let’s just let that be put out there. From the moment we were created, born into, and have grown up in this world, we have been dependent upon someone and something.

God for the very breath we breathe (and all that is named hereafter). Fathers and mothers for our shelter, food, and clothing as we grew up. Schools so that we could get an education and learn how to make a living. Employers to supply jobs for us to work. Husbands, wives, baby-daddies & baby-mamas, child care providers, government welfare systems, hospitals, churches, grocery stores, clothing manufacturers. THE LIST GOES ON AND ON. Get my drift?

How is it that during the course of all of that we all of a sudden became independent? I hear women say it all the time and it pains me. Even more so, because I used to be one of those women; quick to say that I was independent and needed no one to take care of me. How foolish I was. How foolish it is. Truth be told, we are and or were full of pride, which is a false independence.

It is the same with our strength. We as women also love to boast of how strong we are. “I’m strong and independent!” We say.  But if we stopped and thought about it, considering the obvious above (that we are not independent), do we really have the grounds to stand on in saying that? Here’s something else that needs to be put out there………

 

EVERYTHING WE HAVE AND ARE, WE HAVE IN AND BECAUSE OF GOD. 

 

“For God so loved the world

that He gave His only begotten Son,

that whoever believes in Him

should not perish but have

everlasting life.

~ John 3:16

 

God the Creator of all things is the One who has supplied all that we will ever need (Philippians 4:19). This He has done through Jesus Christ  (John 1:16). So, in answer to the question asked above, “NO,” we do not have the grounds to stand on.

Here are a few things to know about a real strong woman:

  • A strong woman is a woman of weakness (2 Corinthians 13:4).
  • She does not pridefully boast that she is strong, but happily boasts that she is weak (2 Corinthians 12:9).
  • She realizes that she can do nothing by herself (John 15:5).
  • She is not ashamed of having weaknesses because she knows that they provide the avenue for God to show up and show Himself mighty strong in her (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Since the 1960’s “strong” women have been rising up and declaring their strength; a strength that has been laced with so much pride and false independence. And we have all felt the effects of that one way or the other.

But now it’s time for us as godly, faithful, weak women to rise up and show the world what a real strong woman looks like. She a woman who is weak in her flesh but strong in her Christ.

 

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Be That Woman – The Woman Fearless

A Woman of Faith

 

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There’s something to be said about a fearless Christian woman. A fearless Christian woman is a woman of faith. Satan can do nothing with her. With all of the chaos that’s going on in the world around her, she has chosen to not be moved; setting her face like a flint (Isaiah 50:7).

She has grasped the understanding that as a child of God, afflictions will come. Persecutions, trials, and tribulations will come (1 Peter 4:12,13). But God has given her a measure of faith that she intends to use.

So, while not leaning to her own understanding of things, she has made the conscious decision to trust in the Lord with all of her heart. She has chosen to acknowledge Him in all of her ways so that He can direct her paths (Proverbs 3:5,6).

Prayer has become her way of life. Her anchor? The tried and true Word of God (Psalm 18:30).

 

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There is a good and a bad to everything (Ecclesiastes 3). In today’s society, where the world strives to remove all traces of God (which is impossible seeing that He created everything), women being fearless is depicted as women who stand up for the right to do whatever they want when they want. These are women who fight to leave their mark on the world; having their voices heard; making themselves known.

But a fearless Christian woman seeks to only make One person known. That person is Jesus Christ. She doesn’t seek to have her voice heard or known. She seeks to follow and to know His voice (John 10:4,5). For He is the Source of everything to her (Philippians 4:19). She stands for the Truth even if it means that she will have to stand alone (John 8:32,36).

As Christian women, it can never be said that we do not ever have moments that we battle with fear. We do. There are times that we get caught up in walking by sight and not by faith (2 Corinthians 5:7). There are times that we allow our circumstances to hold us back, rather than continuing to press ahead. We become all but fearless.

Yet because of our faith in God, we know, trust, and believe that all things work for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose (Roman 8:28).

 

“Faith is a decision to believe.”

~ Chrystal Evans Hurst

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Be That Woman – The Woman Needed

A Godly Woman

There is a woman that is needed in the world today. And I’m sorry to say that it is not a nasty woman. It is not a woman who wishes to be loud, vulgar and proud. The world does not need women who desire to be offensive, spiteful, ugly, or unpleasant, or hard to deal with. The world has seen enough of these kinds of women.

Because of nasty women, divorce rates are high, families are being torn apart, and innocent lives are being taken. This is not to say that it is all of their faults, but the contribution that they have made to said issues is to be held into account.

It is my belief that nasty women are ungodly women. These are women who have not made God to be the head of their lives, and they go against everything God ordained for His created women to be for.

“Help, LORD, for the godly man (woman) ceases! For the faithful disappear from among the sons of men.” 

~ Psalm 12:1 – Parentheses added by me.

What the world needs are godly women. Women who don’t wish to be the head of their homes or their lives, but who desire to honor God as the Head of their lives. These are women who are the true portrait of femininity. They are:

  • Women who fear the LORD (Proverbs 31:30).
  • Women who are humble (Philippians 2:3-5).
  • Respectful, submissive helpers to their husbands (Genesis 2:18; Ephesians 5:22-24).
  • Builders and keepers of their homes (Proverbs 14:1; Titus 2:4-5).
  • Blessed mothers of children (Proverbs 31:28).
  • Holy in their conduct (1 Peter 1:15).
  • Wise and kind with their speech (Proverbs 31:26).
  • Modest in the way that they dress (Proverbs 31:22).
  •  Willing workers with their hands (Proverbs 31:27).
  • Women who are joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled (Galatians 5:22-23).

Godly women are the kind of women who know that their true worth is not in what they choose to make of themselves while here in the earth, but rather that their worth is in Jesus Christ. Godly women are real women.

Let the real women please rise up!

This is a call to you and I that we are needed. We are needed to shine our lights of true womanhood into the darkness that is in this world; to point the future generations of sons and daughters towards the holiness and righteousness of God. We are needed to teach and guide our children into His ways (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).

Godly women, young and old, this is a call to you to be that woman that the world really needs to see; married or single.

 

“Women of God can never be like women of the world.

The world has enough women who are tough;

we need women who are tender.

There are enough women who are coarse;

we need women who are kind.

There are enough women who are rude;

we need women who are refined.

We have enough women of fame and fortune;

we need more women of faith.

We have enough greed;

we need more goodness.

We have enough vanity;

we need more virtue.

We have enough popularity;

We need more purity.”

~ Margaret Dyreng Nadauld

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“Here’s to godly women. May we know them. May we be them.

May we raise them.” ~ Erica Dunomes

 

When Grace Meets Honor

d69bb40339eea5397b058c09e1264772It started with a divine appointment. There I was, about to dig into the Word with God. The phone rings. I answer only to hear my husband’s freshly awakened voice on the other end.

Normally, I get uneasy, much rather annoyed when my time with God gets interrupted. My mind has prepared for nothing else but that special time with Him. Hey! That time is vital. Yet at this particular time, I felt the need to simply listen. My husband’s topic of conversation? Honor.

My husband is the kind of person, that when God is dealing with him about something, he presses in until he fully understands what God is saying. I love that about him. So I listened to him.

I listened to him explain in detail what God had revealed. As he was talking I, too, began to see understand some things about honor.
Then I thought about my mother; my teenage years growing up in her house.

Have you ever heard of the saying that if you are ticklish on the back of your neck, you are “boy crazy” (which now that I think on it, made no sense)? Well I was that ticklish on the back of the neck, boy crazy girl. I did things. Things I’m not proud to say I did. In my mother’s house (I know, kill the visual, right?). This conversation with my husband about honor had brought those things back to my remembrance.

A while ago, maybe a couple of weeks ago. The Lord had laid it on my heart to call my mother and apologize to her, for the ways in which I did not respect her, for doing what I did while under her roof. My mom, at the time, was married to my youngest sister’s dad. But they had been separated for years. It was just my mom, my brother, my sisters and I. She worked during the day and night; two jobs. And the rules she had set, we did not follow. Let’s just say that there was much disrespect going on.

Now, years later, I’ve realized that my lack of respect was really my lack of honoring my mother.

Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. -Exodus 20:12

It could be said by me that I honored my mother in other ways. I have never called her out of her name. I have never talked back to her. I didn’t even feel comfortable using a curse word in front of her in my early adult years (back when I cursed). Yet, with what I know about my teenage years growing up and having shined in the truth of God’s word, I can say that my failing to obey her rules really means that I did not properly honor her at all.

For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. -James 2:10

Having hung up with my husband, the call that I had been putting off………well, I made. I called my mom. I am not good with heartfelt talks which is the reason why I prolonged giving my apology. I have never been good at communicating in that way. It’s only recently as of 2014 that I started moving beyond myself to do such a thing. And on this particular day, I am so glad I did. My mother was instantly forgiving as I expected that she would be.

Honor Defined:

Honor, in the dictionary is defined as to hold in honor or high respect; revere: to honor one’s parents. According to Strong’s Concordance, the Hebrew word for honor as it is used in referenced scripture (notice how the spelling has changed) is kabad or kabed. The vowel sounds are long in pronunciation. And it means to be heavy; abounding with; lay heavily; bring to honour.

In comparing the two definitions, one could only see that parents are to be held in high regards. They are to be revered and greatly respected. My opinion from what I know about the Truth is that because, next to God, after He spoke the foundations of the world into existence He created man and woman; male and female. Other than the animals, there was no one next to Him in his likeness and image. God had set things in divine order and expected His order to be followed. He gave man and woman the authority to have dominion over the earth. He also later made them to be parents. And He commanded that parents be highly honored.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. -Genesis 1:27-28

And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD. And she again bare his brother Abel.  And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground. -Genesis 4:1-2

In Ephesians 6:2, the apostle Paul calls this the first commandment to honor your parents, a commandment with a promise. That promise was to live long in the earth.

We live in a society today where the biblical standard of respect for parents seems to be nonexistent. Children today are not being taught to honor their parents. This is mainly because parents are failing to teach them. They are too busy giving them what they want (their way and material things) over what they need (biblical correction and teaching).

There was a lot of things I was not taught growing up. In fact, the one thing I was taught was to respect parents an elders. I was taught, that I had to do what they said because they were my parents and elders. It was the thing to do when it came to them being the adults. Yet, there were instances that I chose not to. And I reaped the consequences of my disobedience. In my adult life however, this lesson that I’ve learned, I have taught to my own children.

In view of that, things are much different today. A lot of parents have walked away from the biblical foundation of teaching their children to honor them and respect their elders. Their claim is that it’s an old-fashion tradition. And the result is that of what would be considered children gone wild. That’s why they can go to school and get into fights (fist fights) with their teachers. What’s sad is that they think there’s nothing wrong with their behavior. In their eyes, it has been made justified.

For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; -2 Timothy 3:2-4

Is it safe to say that there are some parents today who were not taught about respect and honor themselves growing up? So therefore, they can’t teach their children what they themselves have not had the privilege to learn. Maybe this is where grace comes in.

Having the conversation with my mother allowed me to consider some things that I had not considered before. I had not considered her childhood and what it was like growing up for her. I had not considered what she may have and may not have been taught. Because in reality, these things make a major difference in how you parent your own children. And suddenly I extended to my mother grace. I took a moment to consider her upbringing. I considered the fact that just as God has graced me in the raising of my children, He has graced my mother too.

But here’s the thing. I call it the flipside. God in His grace sees all and knows all. Therefore He is merciful. Yet, though He gives grace, He still requires us to learn in the now what we had not in the past. Some things are excusable for children who have grown up into adulthood who don’t know. But once the Light of Truth has shined, those things become no longer excusable.

If I had not come and spoken unto them, they had not had sin: but now they have no cloke for their sin. He that hateth me hateth my Father also. If I had not done among them the works which none other man did, they had not had sin: but now have they both seen and hated both me and my Father. -John 15:22-24

God has commanded all of us as parents to teach our children (Deuteronomy 11:19). We are to teach them how to honor God first. We are to teach them how to honor us as well. God said it. He is the One who has given and set the divine order. We would do well to obey God.

We see what our world looks like as the second coming of our Lord and Savior draws near. All that has been prophesied is coming to pass. But what if we could just for a moment paint the picture in our minds, what the world would look like should we all truly obey God? How beautiful that would be!

Do you know that you have a world? Yep! You do. Your home is your world; and all that pertains. Though it be small, the responsibility you have been given to keep it is major.

I propose a challenge. This challenge is twofold. First, I challenge you to think back on how you treated your parents growing up. If you know that you didn’t truly honor them, then call them and honor them today. Make it right by admitting that you were wrong. Second, I challenge you to take a survey of your world (your home). View it light of the Scripture (Exodus 20:12). And ask yourself do your children really honor you? Are you teaching them to honor you? What about respect for their elders? Should any of these questions be met with the answer of “no”, then I challenge you to change that.

This change will not be easy. But through grace it can be done. Let honor come to be where honor is due (according to the Word of God). It’s never too late to do the right thing while you have the chance now to do it.