To Bind And To Loose And Their Need To Be Defined

*** WARNING! ***

There is something that has become of a grave concern. From what has been seen in countless prayers (mine and of others), it seems to be clear that many aren’t aware that they are doing this. And so I feel there is a great need to bring it to your attention. This has been discovered through study, using the Word of God, the dictionary, and the Strong’s Concordance.

*** According to Matthew 16:19; 18:18 ***

Did you know that when you pray to “loose” the love and truth of the Word of God that you are actually praying for it to be destroyed or broken from something or someone? Did you know that when you pray to “bind” the love and truth of the Word of God that you are actually praying for it to be knitted, tied and joined to something or someone?

Yes, it’s true! I had to learn this after God showed me that I had been praying the wrong way for so many years. He led me to define these words in the Bible Concordance, and I was blown away at what I found.

My reason for sharing this is to make us all aware of the way that we pray for binding and loosing. Personally I’ve seen us (myself included) using the word “loose” in a way that doesn’t mean what we think it to mean. (Ex: “I loose the love and truth of the Word of God.”) It is my hope to see this change in our prayer lives.

When we bind the devil, we are not destroying his works, we are tying/joining them to something. But what? (Back to the pit of hell, I hope). To loose the devil is to destroy his works. When we loose God, we are not asking Him to be connected to our lives, but destroyed from our lives. To bind God is to be knitted, tied and connected to Him. (Ex: “We bind Your healing power to the lives of Your children.”)

Below, I share with you all of the meanings connected to the two words that I found.

• The first set relates to the word “bind”.

• The second set relates to the word “loose”.

I encourage you to look them up for yourselves. Search the Scriptures even. Do not take my word for it, but study it out for yourself.

May I make a suggestion?

Let us be very careful and specific about what we are binding.

We don’t want to bind (tie) the works of the enemy to our lives. But we do want to bind his works to hell, right?

Check out this sample prayer and tell me if you notice the difference in light of what I’ve shared.

This is not to condemn anybody’s prayers, but to shed light where there is believed to be some darkness on the matter at hand; that we may all grow and properly mature in Christ.

There is not pretension here to know it all. Constructive feedback is welcomed. The Word of God says that Iron sharpens iron.

It is hard to believe that Satan and his works will be bound (knitted) to heaven. But it’s not hard to believe that he will be loosed (destroyed) from heaven. #Blessings

“And I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.”” ~ Matthew 16:19

““Assuredly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” ~ Matthew 18:18

When Someone Comes Asking – “What’s Your Secret?”

“How do you do it? What’s your secret?”

Have you ever been asked that as a believer? Finally, you’ve come to that place in life where you’re no longer emotional about every little thing. That quick temper that you once had is gone. Those nasty words you used to say….well….you don’t say them anymore. When something suddenly changes at your job, you no longer act as if it is the end of the world. You embrace the change and continue to effectively do your job. When problems arise in your family, you no longer fall apart like you used to. And even if you suddenly did, you find Strength to pull yourself back together.

Those who have become a witness to your change of character, who aren’t used to seeing anyone act or respond the way you do, are left asking the question(s) above. They can be the very person today that you used to be 5 years ago. And after having been witness to how you remain in control, they want to know what it is you do. They want to know your secret. The only answer is that…..




There are just a Person and an encounter. Now that they have asked, you have the chance to gladly share your experience with them. That’s the privilege that you, as a believer, have been given. Never turn away from it.

God and His Son are so worthy to be known. The encounter you had with them, was no light matter. Something happened on that day. Your whole life changed. You became a new creation.


Therefore, if anyone is in Christ,

he is a new creation; old things have passed away;

behold, all things have become new. 

~ 2 Corinthians 5:17


Not only did you become a new creation, but you became a witness for the life of Jesus who now lives inside of you. The person who has been asking or will ask, “What’s your secret?”, is getting a taste of what that newness of life in Christ looks like through you. You may not have done it in words, yet, your life has become a witness to something greater than what they have been previously experiencing.

There was a sermon preached on American Family Radio that spoke on the subject of families. The pastor giving the message was saying that how believers raise their children should leave those of the world asking them “What are your strategies? How do you do it?” 

My Sister, your life will do and should do the same. And when they come asking, freely share what you have been given. God has called you for this very reason. Your life as a witness to the life of Jesus is how someone else will be led to knowing Him. Remember always, that in living for God there is no secret. 


Freely you have received, freely give. 

~ Matthew 10:8b

Every One Can Do This


God is not just speaking to the Saved when He says, “Come”.  No. He’s speaking to you who are unsaved.

Now let me say it this way too. God is not just speaking to the unsaved when He says, “Come”. No. He’s speaking to you who are Saved.

Oftentimes, whether Saved or unsaved, we think that we have to have it all together before we can come to God. Our i‘s have to be dotted and our t’s crossed. There is to be no flaw in us, right? This is not true. God knows that we are far-from-perfect people; full of flaws and imperfections. He doesn’t want us to have it all together. In fact, He wants us to be broken and in pieces when we come to Him. Why? Because He is the One who can put us rightly together and make us whole.


The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit,

a broken and a contrite heart –

these, O God, You will not despise. ~ Psalm 51:17

God bids us come. He loves it when we approach Him in whatever state that we are in. The Word of God says that those who God chooses and causes to approach Him are blessed (Psalm 65:4). It’s okay for us to not have it all together. It is in not having it all together that we are blessed. Take a look at these reasons why:

  • When we walk in darkness, God becomes our Light.
  • When our lives are filled with sin, God gives us His righteousness.
  • When the enemy attacks us with lies, God reveals to us His Truth.
  • When we are full of doubt, God becomes our Blessed Assurance.
  • When there is hate in our hearts, God fills us with His love.
  • When we are weak, God’s strength makes us strong. 


In coming to God as we are, we are able to find two things: 1) Rest from all of our strivings. 2) What is acceptable to Him.


Come to Me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads,

and I will give you rest. Accept My teachings and learn from Me,

because I am gentle and humble in spirit,

and you will find rest for your lives. 

~ Matthew 11:28,29

The awesome thing about it all is that………God sees everything. God knows everything. There’s no need for hiding or pretense. Sister, just simply “Come.”


“Be That Woman” – Three Simple Words That Have Impacted My Life


How profoundly did that statement ring to me. Immediately my mind started to really ponder over the deepness of it. I started to think about my mom and the kind of woman she was to me during my childhood days.

My mother was loving. My mother was hard working. She still is. She always kept a clean house. She kept food on the table. She always made sure that my siblings’ and my hair was combed and that we had on the best clothes and shoes she could afford for us. She trained us in how to cook, clean the house, and do the laundry. She trained us to keep ourselves well.

We didn’t have much of a spiritual upbringing in my home as I was growing up. My mother believed in God, but we were the family who only went to church occasionally, unless we went off to stay with one of her siblings in what we called the country for a spring break or two. Then, we went every Sunday.

Then the day came that we had started going to church more frequently. It was at that time that I gave my life to Christ when I was sixteen years old. I had become a teenage parent by then. But going to church was about the extent of it. I learned nothing at that time of what it meant to have a relationship with Jesus. Going to church had become short-lived again.

My walk with God really didn’t happen until almost 10 years later. On December 3, 2006, I recommitted my life to God. Having become much older, having had a few more children, and now able to get myself around, I decided on that day that it was time. I confessed Jesus once again. I began my real journey of walking with and having a relationship with God.

This is when the scales fell off of my eyes. God, through the power of the Holy Spirit had been teaching me so much.  It brought me to the point where I realized that there were a lot of things that I was not taught growing up, that I felt I should have been. And it made me feel a certain way towards my mother for not having taught me.

In a conversation I had with my her,  I was forced to consider some things that I had not considered before. I had not considered her childhood and what it was like growing up for her. I had not considered what she may have and may not have been taught. Because in reality, these things make a major difference in how you parent your own children. And suddenly I extended to my mother grace. I took a moment to consider her upbringing. I considered the fact that just as God has graced me in the raising of my children, He has graced my mother too.

But here’s the thing. I call it the flip-side. God in His grace sees all and knows all. Therefore He is merciful. Yet, though He gives grace, He still requires us to learn in the now what we had not in the past. Some things are excusable for children who have grown up into adulthood who don’t know. But once the Light of Truth has shined, those things become no longer excusable.


“If I had not come and spoken unto them, they had not had sin: but now they have no cloke for their sin. He that hateth me hateth my Father also. If I had not done among them the works which none other man did, they had not had sin: but now have they both seen and hated both me and my Father (John 15:22-24).”


In looking back over my life, with how I grew up, to my many experiences I’ve encountered, and with knowing what I know now – after having given my life to Christ – there are a lot of things I wish would have happened over the course of my childhood concerning my mom. Was my mother a bad woman? No. I believe she did the best she could with what she knew. But here’s what I wish:


• I wish my mother could have been a woman who taught her children about God; the importance of having a relationship with Him (Deuteronomy 6).
• I wish my mother could have been a woman who took the time enough to talk to her children about the things that mattered most.
• I wish my mother could have been the kind of woman to model for her children the example of a woman who builds her house (Proverbs 14:1).
• I wish my mother could have modeled for her children the importance of being a woman who kept her word.
• I wish my mother could have modeled for her children the structure of training her children in the way that they should go.
• I wish my mother could have been an example to her children of what biblical submission to her husband looked like.
• I wish my mother could have taught her children the importance of standing up for God’s Truth even if it meant standing alone.
• I wish my mother could have taught her children the value of guiding their hearts while not living by their feelings and emotions.
• I wish my mother could have taught her children the importance of financial stewardship.
• I wish my mother could have taught her children the importance of their bodies being God’s temples; how they should take care of them.
• I wish my mother could have taught her children the value of true decision making.
• I wish my mother could have been a better example of Christ.




My upbringing as a child greatly influenced the way I’ve parented my own children. Especially in their earlier childhood years. I was a single mom for most of that time, and a tender babe in Christ. I had no clue what real parenting was. I didn’t get married until I was 29. It was God in my husband who opened my eyes to the true importance of parenting my children correctly. But, for me, that wake up call until the year 2012 when my husband threatened divorce if things didn’t change.




It all started with this book. I was in the garage one day praying unto God and asking Him to make me to be a woman after His heart and show me His priorities for my life, when I came across this book that my mom had given me. Ironic, huh?

It only took me to get to the table of contents before I realized God had given me the answer to my prayers. He had given me guidance. And in that instant I knew that He wanted me to build my house (Proverbs 14:1). Since then, I’ve been doing my best to obey what I believe God wants me to do. I even believe that He impressed upon my heart to not go back into the work force. Since then, I’ve been a stay-at-home mom. 

I’ve learned so much while on this journey. Over the course of my parenting since 2012, I have had to learn some new ways and unlearn some old ways. Let me just tell you, it was not easy. It forced me to have to truly see what parenting was as well as what parenting was not. And let’s not mention having to learn how to be a true, godly wife. It was all a total life changing reality for me. It forced me to truly grow up. I praise God for that!

With the more that I learn as I go, it seems my hunger to fulfill my assignment just keeps growing and growing. I’ve come to realize that it is a high calling.  It has caused me to have the desire to be to my children what I wish my mom would have truly been to me. I am needed for such a time as this.

To be honest, I believe it’s every woman’s high calling. I say high because the focus and center of the calling  is God who called you. We are all needed for this great assignment.

We are needed to be fearless for God.

We are needed to be strong  in God.

Contrary to popular belief, despite what the media portrays as a depiction of the woman of today, God is still raising up His faithful daughters who desire to be women who:

  • Are single godly women.
  • Are married godly women.
  • Love Him with their whole heart.
  • Serve Him daily.
  • Practice godliness and holiness.
  • Practice discipline
  • Respect their husbands.
  • Care for their families.
  • Help the needy.
  • Walk in wisdom, purity, and goodness.

I don’t know the kind of upbringing you had growing up. In your home, your mom could have been the one to model a perfect example of Christ for you to follow. Or your mom could have been the total opposite. The point is is that we all have been given the chance to be for others what we wished someone would have been for us.

I can be that woman. 

You can be that woman.

Together, collectively, we can be those women. 

Sister in Christ, will you accept your high calling?


“For us to answer God’s high callings, we must look to Him.”

~ Elizabeth George