Be That Woman – The Woman Strong

A Woman of Weakness




We are not independent! Let’s just let that be put out there. From the moment we were created, born into, and have grown up in this world, we have been dependent upon someone and something.

God for the very breath we breathe (and all that is named hereafter). Fathers and mothers for our shelter, food, and clothing as we grew up. Schools so that we could get an education and learn how to make a living. Employers to supply jobs for us to work. Husbands, wives, baby-daddies & baby-mamas, child care providers, government welfare systems, hospitals, churches, grocery stores, clothing manufacturers. THE LIST GOES ON AND ON. Get my drift?

How is it that during the course of all of that we all of a sudden became independent? I hear women say it all the time and it pains me. Even more so, because I used to be one of those women; quick to say that I was independent and needed no one to take care of me. How foolish I was. How foolish it is. Truth be told, we are and or were full of pride, which is a false independence.

It is the same with our strength. We as women also love to boast of how strong we are. “I’m strong and independent!” We say.  But if we stopped and thought about it, considering the obvious above (that we are not independent), do we really have the grounds to stand on in saying that? Here’s something else that needs to be put out there………




“For God so loved the world

that He gave His only begotten Son,

that whoever believes in Him

should not perish but have

everlasting life.

~ John 3:16


God the Creator of all things is the One who has supplied all that we will ever need (Philippians 4:19). This He has done through Jesus Christ  (John 1:16). So, in answer to the question asked above, “NO,” we do not have the grounds to stand on.

Here are a few things to know about a real strong woman:

  • A strong woman is a woman of weakness (2 Corinthians 13:4).
  • She does not pridefully boast that she is strong, but happily boasts that she is weak (2 Corinthians 12:9).
  • She realizes that she can do nothing by herself (John 15:5).
  • She is not ashamed of having weaknesses because she knows that they provide the avenue for God to show up and show Himself mighty strong in her (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Since the 1960’s “strong” women have been rising up and declaring their strength; a strength that has been laced with so much pride and false independence. And we have all felt the effects of that one way or the other.

But now it’s time for us as godly, faithful, weak women to rise up and show the world what a real strong woman looks like. She a woman who is weak in her flesh but strong in her Christ.



Be That Woman – The Woman Fearless

A Woman of Faith




There’s something to be said about a fearless Christian woman. A fearless Christian woman is a woman of faith. Satan can do nothing with her. With all of the chaos that’s going on in the world around her, she has chosen to not be moved; setting her face like a flint (Isaiah 50:7).

She has grasped the understanding that as a child of God, afflictions will come. Persecutions, trials, and tribulations will come (1 Peter 4:12,13). But God has given her a measure of faith that she intends to use.

So, while not leaning to her own understanding of things, she has made the conscious decision to trust in the Lord with all of her heart. She has chosen to acknowledge Him in all of her ways so that He can direct her paths (Proverbs 3:5,6).

Prayer has become her way of life. Her anchor? The tried and true Word of God (Psalm 18:30).




There is a good and a bad to everything (Ecclesiastes 3). In today’s society, where the world strives to remove all traces of God (which is impossible seeing that He created everything), women being fearless is depicted as women who stand up for the right to do whatever they want when they want. These are women who fight to leave their mark on the world; having their voices heard; making themselves known.

But a fearless Christian woman seeks to only make One person known. That person is Jesus Christ. She doesn’t seek to have her voice heard or known. She seeks to follow and to know His voice (John 10:4,5). For He is the Source of everything to her (Philippians 4:19). She stands for the Truth even if it means that she will have to stand alone (John 8:32,36).

As Christian women, it can never be said that we do not ever have moments that we battle with fear. We do. There are times that we get caught up in walking by sight and not by faith (2 Corinthians 5:7). There are times that we allow our circumstances to hold us back, rather than continuing to press ahead. We become all but fearless.

Yet because of our faith in God, we know, trust, and believe that all things work for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose (Roman 8:28).


“Faith is a decision to believe.”

~ Chrystal Evans Hurst



Be That Woman – The Woman Needed

A Godly Woman

There is a woman that is needed in the world today. And I’m sorry to say that it is not a nasty woman. It is not a woman who wishes to be loud, vulgar and proud. The world does not need women who desire to be offensive, spiteful, ugly, or unpleasant, or hard to deal with. The world has seen enough of these kinds of women.

Because of nasty women, divorce rates are high, families are being torn apart, and innocent lives are being taken. This is not to say that it is all of their faults, but the contribution that they have made to said issues is to be held into account.

It is my belief that nasty women are ungodly women. These are women who have not made God to be the head of their lives, and they go against everything God ordained for His created women to be for.

“Help, LORD, for the godly man (woman) ceases! For the faithful disappear from among the sons of men.” 

~ Psalm 12:1 – Parentheses added by me.

What the world needs are godly women. Women who don’t wish to be the head of their homes or their lives, but who desire to honor God as the Head of their lives. These are women who are the true portrait of femininity. They are:

  • Women who fear the LORD (Proverbs 31:30).
  • Women who are humble (Philippians 2:3-5).
  • Respectful, submissive helpers to their husbands (Genesis 2:18; Ephesians 5:22-24).
  • Builders and keepers of their homes (Proverbs 14:1; Titus 2:4-5).
  • Blessed mothers of children (Proverbs 31:28).
  • Holy in their conduct (1 Peter 1:15).
  • Wise and kind with their speech (Proverbs 31:26).
  • Modest in the way that they dress (Proverbs 31:22).
  •  Willing workers with their hands (Proverbs 31:27).
  • Women who are joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled (Galatians 5:22-23).

Godly women are the kind of women who know that their true worth is not in what they choose to make of themselves while here in the earth, but rather that their worth is in Jesus Christ. Godly women are real women.

Let the real women please rise up!

This is a call to you and I that we are needed. We are needed to shine our lights of true womanhood into the darkness that is in this world; to point the future generations of sons and daughters towards the holiness and righteousness of God. We are needed to teach and guide our children into His ways (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).

Godly women, young and old, this is a call to you to be that woman that the world really needs to see; married or single.


“Women of God can never be like women of the world.

The world has enough women who are tough;

we need women who are tender.

There are enough women who are coarse;

we need women who are kind.

There are enough women who are rude;

we need women who are refined.

We have enough women of fame and fortune;

we need more women of faith.

We have enough greed;

we need more goodness.

We have enough vanity;

we need more virtue.

We have enough popularity;

We need more purity.”

~ Margaret Dyreng Nadauld


“Here’s to godly women. May we know them. May we be them.

May we raise them.” ~ Erica Dunomes


When Grace Meets Honor

d69bb40339eea5397b058c09e1264772It started with a divine appointment. There I was, about to dig into the Word with God. The phone rings. I answer only to hear my husband’s freshly awakened voice on the other end.

Normally, I get uneasy, much rather annoyed when my time with God gets interrupted. My mind has prepared for nothing else but that special time with Him. Hey! That time is vital. Yet at this particular time, I felt the need to simply listen. My husband’s topic of conversation? Honor.

My husband is the kind of person, that when God is dealing with him about something, he presses in until he fully understands what God is saying. I love that about him. So I listened to him.

I listened to him explain in detail what God had revealed. As he was talking I, too, began to see understand some things about honor.
Then I thought about my mother; my teenage years growing up in her house.

Have you ever heard of the saying that if you are ticklish on the back of your neck, you are “boy crazy” (which now that I think on it, made no sense)? Well I was that ticklish on the back of the neck, boy crazy girl. I did things. Things I’m not proud to say I did. In my mother’s house (I know, kill the visual, right?). This conversation with my husband about honor had brought those things back to my remembrance.

A while ago, maybe a couple of weeks ago. The Lord had laid it on my heart to call my mother and apologize to her, for the ways in which I did not respect her, for doing what I did while under her roof. My mom, at the time, was married to my youngest sister’s dad. But they had been separated for years. It was just my mom, my brother, my sisters and I. She worked during the day and night; two jobs. And the rules she had set, we did not follow. Let’s just say that there was much disrespect going on.

Now, years later, I’ve realized that my lack of respect was really my lack of honoring my mother.

Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. -Exodus 20:12

It could be said by me that I honored my mother in other ways. I have never called her out of her name. I have never talked back to her. I didn’t even feel comfortable using a curse word in front of her in my early adult years (back when I cursed). Yet, with what I know about my teenage years growing up and having shined in the truth of God’s word, I can say that my failing to obey her rules really means that I did not properly honor her at all.

For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. -James 2:10

Having hung up with my husband, the call that I had been putting off………well, I made. I called my mom. I am not good with heartfelt talks which is the reason why I prolonged giving my apology. I have never been good at communicating in that way. It’s only recently as of 2014 that I started moving beyond myself to do such a thing. And on this particular day, I am so glad I did. My mother was instantly forgiving as I expected that she would be.

Honor Defined:

Honor, in the dictionary is defined as to hold in honor or high respect; revere: to honor one’s parents. According to Strong’s Concordance, the Hebrew word for honor as it is used in referenced scripture (notice how the spelling has changed) is kabad or kabed. The vowel sounds are long in pronunciation. And it means to be heavy; abounding with; lay heavily; bring to honour.

In comparing the two definitions, one could only see that parents are to be held in high regards. They are to be revered and greatly respected. My opinion from what I know about the Truth is that because, next to God, after He spoke the foundations of the world into existence He created man and woman; male and female. Other than the animals, there was no one next to Him in his likeness and image. God had set things in divine order and expected His order to be followed. He gave man and woman the authority to have dominion over the earth. He also later made them to be parents. And He commanded that parents be highly honored.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. -Genesis 1:27-28

And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD. And she again bare his brother Abel.  And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground. -Genesis 4:1-2

In Ephesians 6:2, the apostle Paul calls this the first commandment to honor your parents, a commandment with a promise. That promise was to live long in the earth.

We live in a society today where the biblical standard of respect for parents seems to be nonexistent. Children today are not being taught to honor their parents. This is mainly because parents are failing to teach them. They are too busy giving them what they want (their way and material things) over what they need (biblical correction and teaching).

There was a lot of things I was not taught growing up. In fact, the one thing I was taught was to respect parents an elders. I was taught, that I had to do what they said because they were my parents and elders. It was the thing to do when it came to them being the adults. Yet, there were instances that I chose not to. And I reaped the consequences of my disobedience. In my adult life however, this lesson that I’ve learned, I have taught to my own children.

In view of that, things are much different today. A lot of parents have walked away from the biblical foundation of teaching their children to honor them and respect their elders. Their claim is that it’s an old-fashion tradition. And the result is that of what would be considered children gone wild. That’s why they can go to school and get into fights (fist fights) with their teachers. What’s sad is that they think there’s nothing wrong with their behavior. In their eyes, it has been made justified.

For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; -2 Timothy 3:2-4

Is it safe to say that there are some parents today who were not taught about respect and honor themselves growing up? So therefore, they can’t teach their children what they themselves have not had the privilege to learn. Maybe this is where grace comes in.

Having the conversation with my mother allowed me to consider some things that I had not considered before. I had not considered her childhood and what it was like growing up for her. I had not considered what she may have and may not have been taught. Because in reality, these things make a major difference in how you parent your own children. And suddenly I extended to my mother grace. I took a moment to consider her upbringing. I considered the fact that just as God has graced me in the raising of my children, He has graced my mother too.

But here’s the thing. I call it the flipside. God in His grace sees all and knows all. Therefore He is merciful. Yet, though He gives grace, He still requires us to learn in the now what we had not in the past. Some things are excusable for children who have grown up into adulthood who don’t know. But once the Light of Truth has shined, those things become no longer excusable.

If I had not come and spoken unto them, they had not had sin: but now they have no cloke for their sin. He that hateth me hateth my Father also. If I had not done among them the works which none other man did, they had not had sin: but now have they both seen and hated both me and my Father. -John 15:22-24

God has commanded all of us as parents to teach our children (Deuteronomy 11:19). We are to teach them how to honor God first. We are to teach them how to honor us as well. God said it. He is the One who has given and set the divine order. We would do well to obey God.

We see what our world looks like as the second coming of our Lord and Savior draws near. All that has been prophesied is coming to pass. But what if we could just for a moment paint the picture in our minds, what the world would look like should we all truly obey God? How beautiful that would be!

Do you know that you have a world? Yep! You do. Your home is your world; and all that pertains. Though it be small, the responsibility you have been given to keep it is major.

I propose a challenge. This challenge is twofold. First, I challenge you to think back on how you treated your parents growing up. If you know that you didn’t truly honor them, then call them and honor them today. Make it right by admitting that you were wrong. Second, I challenge you to take a survey of your world (your home). View it light of the Scripture (Exodus 20:12). And ask yourself do your children really honor you? Are you teaching them to honor you? What about respect for their elders? Should any of these questions be met with the answer of “no”, then I challenge you to change that.

This change will not be easy. But through grace it can be done. Let honor come to be where honor is due (according to the Word of God). It’s never too late to do the right thing while you have the chance now to do it.



One Word To Lead Me In 2017: GROWTH

December is always the month that I personally love to take the time to disconnect from the world to truly connect with God.

It is the time that I like to take a serious look back over the year and reflect over all that has taken place, before going into the new one.

It’s the time that I like to really quiet my heart to hear or discern what God has in store for the next. He is always doing a new thing, right (Isaiah 43:18-19)? I want to know what that new thing is. I want to hear what God has to say.

When I woke up Sunday, the morning of the first day of the New Year 2017, I asked God, “What do You want me to focus on this year?” This is what I heard Him say.




Change is inevitable. Growth is intentional. ~ Glenda Cloud


One of the first things that I like to ask myself in my time of reflecting is, Have I grown this year? And I believe that if I have, I should be able to see it. In fact, I believe that if anyone gets to the end of the year, a 365 day long period, he or she should be able to see how they have grown, if they have grown. If they can’t then that rings the bell that there’s a problem.

Can I tell you something? I have a problem. I didn’t grow in the year 2016. I had moments where I was way more in my flesh than I should have been, my prayer life seemed almost none existent, and I had a hard time being patient.

Yet, I prayed that these things wouldn’t be so. I asked God for so much help. Because I wanted to please Him. I still do. And He is not the one who failed me in bringing these things to pass in my life either. No God is always faithful. I am the one who got in the way. How? I grew weary of doing good.

My span of endurance is not long at all. I will admit that. I have a bad habit of wanting things and wanting them NOW. Over and over, God has to tell me to be anxious for nothing (Philippians 4:6). And I listen, until, I get anxious again. Ha! I just had to laugh at myself. I’m so glad the Father loves me. So much so that He wants me to grow.

There are several things that God has in mind when it comes to human beings. It is that they accept His Son Jesus as their Lord and Savior, grow more in the knowledge of who He and His Son Jesus is (John 17:3), and that they grow and mature more into the likeness and image of Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:49).

God is all about growth. He wants mature sons and daughters bearing fruit for His glory.


He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in its season, whose leaf shall not wither; and whatever he does shall prosper. ~ Psalm 1:3


To have to sit and admit that I could look back over the year 2016 and not see how I grew disturbs me in the worse way. Because as a child of God, growth is to be evident in my life. So in this new year of 2017, I have a choice.


Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit. ~ Matthew 12:33


I believe that we should always be able to see areas of growth in our lives. We should always see how we have matured. Growth is important to the Christian faith.

Because God is so merciful. Because I know that He loves me. Because He spoke the word GROWTH over me. I choose to GROW. 




I will grow in patience.

I will grow in prayer.

I will grow in godliness.

I will grow in holiness.

I will be intentional to grow. 


It is my hope that at the end of this year 2017, Lord willing, that I will be able to reflect back over this year and be able to testify of all the ways and areas for which God enabled me to grow.








What one word is God speaking over you this year? Will you be intentional to allow Him to manifest the fruit of it in your life?