One Woman’s Story – Gessica Rodriguez

“My name is Gessica. It’s pronounced like “Jessica”, but spelled with a twist. I was conceived by my young Sicilian parents back in the early 1990’s. As excited as they both were, only one of them could make it to the American delivery room that night.

My father had issues entering the United States, so my mom raised me alone until she met my sister’s dad. I was a couple months shy of 3 years old. That’s where my recollection begins.

My mother carries a strong presence. She is hilarious and full of life and laughter. She is not the bashful type, but quite the contrary; she can make anyone feel at home within minutes, and her warm personality will have you feeling like you’ve known her for ages.

She’d always battled an inner sadness, however; and due to her very traumatic past, she had a tendency to react out of defense and anger. My upbringing can be personified as a shaky, wooden roller coaster. There were many ups and many downs.

I’d like to think that my life is more colorful because of my mom. She taught me how to laugh and how to feel others’ pain. She taught me how to be affectionate, caring, and family-oriented. I watched her cook and clean religiously, and those things have stuck with me.

On the other hand, I picked up some bad habits, too. I grew up emotionally UNstable. My temper had a fuse as long as a fingernail. I suffered from constant anxiety. I felt I was being eaten alive by depression. I ate and ate to compensate for my powerful feelings. I had no control over my thoughts or emotions. My life felt very chaotic, and it was discouraging when my mom couldn’t help me stand up. That’s because I’d already watched her fall the exact same way I did.

I’ve been faithfully following Jesus Christ for almost 6 years now. I made the decision to rededicate my life to Him while my mom was away on a trip. Though her absence hurt me deeply, I encountered the most amazing Gift a person could ever receive, and that was the love and salvation of God’s only Son, Jesus. The more time I spend in God’s presence, the more my heart heals.

I’ve been married for 3 years, and now that I’ve had the time to look back and reflect on what it means to be a Godly wife and woman, I see that it was definitely not modeled in my home.

With that being said, I am all the more inspired and motivated to be the best woman, wife, and future mother that I can be because I understand the vital importance of leading by EXAMPLE. Before giving my life to the Lord, I never really considered what my words or actions would do to somebody else, but now I’m aware that everything I say and do is not only seen by our heavenly Father, but is affecting those around me.

As a woman, I have a position of influence on my husband and my future children, and I have to make a conscious decision every day of whether or not I’m going to walk as Jesus calls me to walk. I have the power to set the tone in our home’s atmosphere, I have the power to uplift my husband’s confidence, and I have the power to instill Godly principles into the lives of our children.

It’s an honor to be a woman, and not just any woman, but the woman that God has called me to be. May the Lord of Heaven be glorified forever and ever!!!”

~ Gessica

 

** Gessica is currently a housewife who blogs at gessicaparisi.wordpress.com.

It Starts With You Being In The Home

 

Back in 2012, after I was let go from the job I was working, I questioned if I should look for another one or not. We were going through some family issues at that time too. If you remember in my recent post, I had stated that my husband had threatened divorce if things didn’t change. With prayer, asking God to show me His priorities for my life – making me a woman after His heart, it wasn’t long before I had my answer.

I was forced to take a step back and to really look at and evaluate a few things. Things like my role as a wife and my role as a mother. We all as women at one point in time or another in our lives, have this false vision of what we think marriage and parenting are going to be like, right? But then it happens, and it turns out to be not at all how we actually pictured. Well, that was my world at that moment. Things were not going at all as I had pictured.

Reading A Woman After God’s Own Heart was truly an eye opener for me. As I began reading the content of its pages, I developed this burning passion in my heart to have and to be what God wanted me to have and to be as it pertained to marriage and motherhood. There was so much that I found out I didn’t know. So much I had to learn. It didn’t bother me at all as long as I was able to be pleasing to God.

I took a look back over my early motherhood years. Because for most of that time, I was a single parent, who had her children out of wedlock, I had to work to take care of my children. That meant that I had to be away from home. That meant that I had to entrust my children to the care of someone else; allowing them to be shaped and influenced by all of these different people who didn’t have the same values of teaching my children the way I did. Actually, I can’t say that I was doing a better job than they were then anyway. I knew I needed to teach my children. It just never really dawned on me how important teaching them was until reading that book. Sad, I know, yet that was my life.

 

Train up a child in the way he should go,

and when he is old he will not depart from it. 

~ Proverbs 22:6

I learned that the most important years of a child’s life to be weaned is when they are first born to about the age of three years old. Let’s look at the life of Hannah. Hannah was the first wife of Elkanah. Peninnah was the second. Hannah was barren and had no children, yet she desperately wanted them. The LORD had closed up her womb. Peninnah knew this and would often provoke Hannah severely until she became miserable. So miserable that she refused to eat.

 And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed to the Lord and wept in anguish. Then she made a vow and said, “O Lord of hosts, if You will indeed look on the affliction of Your maidservant and remember me, and not forget Your maidservant, but will give Your maidservant a male child, then I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and no razor shall come upon his head.”

 And it happened, as she continued praying before the Lord, that Eli watched her mouth.  Now Hannah spoke in her heart; only her lips moved, but her voice was not heard. Therefore Eli thought she was drunk.  So Eli said to her, “How long will you be drunk? Put your wine away from you!”

 But Hannah answered and said, “No, my lord, I am a woman of sorrowful spirit. I have drunk neither wine nor intoxicating drink, but have poured out my soul before the Lord. “Do not consider your maidservant a wicked woman, for out of the abundance of my complaint and grief I have spoken until now.”

Then Eli answered and said, “Go in peace, and the God of Israel grant your petition which you have asked of Him.”

 And she said, “Let your maidservant find favor in your sight.” So the woman went her way and ate, and her face was no longer sad.

 Then they rose early in the morning and worshiped before the Lord, and returned and came to their house at Ramah. And Elkanah knew Hannah his wife, and the Lord remembered her. So it came to pass in the process of time that Hannah conceived and bore a son, and called his name Samuel, saying, “Because I have asked for him from the Lord.”

 Now the man Elkanah and all his house went up to offer to the Lord the yearly sacrifice and his vow.  But Hannah did not go up, for she said to her husband, “Not until the child is weaned; then I will take him, that he may appear before the Lord and remain there forever.”

 So Elkanah her husband said to her, “Do what seems best to you; wait until you have weaned him. Only let the Lord establish His word.” Then the woman stayed and nursed her son until she had weaned him.

~1 Samuel 1:10-23

 

Hannah didn’t leave her home or allow her son to leave until after she had weaned him. Hannah also didn’t stop there after weaning Samuel. After she dedicated him to God, the Bible records that she visited him every year. It was definitely too late in my house for that. My children were all almost well into being teens. I had spent the years that I needed to wean my children away from them working. And it seemed to had created a bit of chaos that needed to be fixed fast. That’s when I made the decision to stay at home.

God impressed upon my heart that my children needed me there. I believed it was what He wanted me to do so, I obeyed. I’ve been home ever since. What’s great is that I also do not ever regret the decision that I made to do so. I obeyed God. It has truly been such a blessing to my family. My husband and I are still together……and happy. 

It’s now the year 2017 and guess what? I am still learning and applying how to be that wife and mother God designed for, I believe, all women to be. In fact, I’m going to say something that most women of today may not agree with. That is okay. It is to be expected. But, from all that I have learned and am still learning, a woman’s true role and purpose is in the home. That’s where being the woman God has called you to be must to start.

 

“God holds parents responsible for the upbringing of children – 

not grandparents, not school, not the state, not youth groups,

not peers and friends. ~ Rebecca Hayford Bauer

A mother’s role of influence is so vital and needed to that growing child; those growing children. Just as much as the father’s role is vital and needed. And you are responsible for their upbringing. The most important training that they will ever need must come from you being in the home. Most mothers today are not able to properly train their children because working away from home tires them out to where the influence that they need to give their children, they can’t give it. That leaves so many families sending untrained children out into the world for society to have to deal with them.

Please don’t get me wrong. I understand that there are single parent households. My mother did not always have her husband at home. Most of the years they were married, they spent separated. She had to single-parent for many years. I did too. I started out as a teen parent who didn’t meet her husband until she was 28 years old. But when we hold this single parent issue up to the light of God’s word, we all will see that there is nothing right about anyone being a single parent. It means either two things have taken place: 1. The sin of fornication or 2. The sin of divorce.

 

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled,

but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. 

~ Hebrews 13:4

 

Single-parent households are not God’s way of life. They are that way because of sin. This is indeed a sad reality. The real reality is that women better serve their families by being in the home, not away from the home. Don’t just take my word for it. My word means nothing compared to Scripture itself. Take God’s word for it.

 

The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior,

not slanderers, not given to much wine,

teachers of good things – that they admonish the young women

to love their husbands, to love their children, 

to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, 

obedient to their own husbands,

that the word of God may not be blasphemed.

~ Titus 2:3-5

 

Or what about the dictionary’s definition? It defines being a homemaker as a person who manages the household of his or her own family, especially as a principal occupation. And in defining the word principalit means to be first or highest in rank, importance, value, etc. 

 

Another Bible translation puts it this way…………

 

That they teach the younger women to be sober,

to love their husbands, to love their children,

to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, 

obedient to their own husbands, 

that the word of God be not blasphemed.

~ Titus 2:4,5 KJV

 

There’s nothing that can be done about what has been done out of God’s order, which is that men and women marry first (Genesis 2:21-24), then have children (Genesis 4:1), and the wives become keepers of their homes. Yet, when you come to know the Truth, we would do well to act on that Truth.

 

That the Word of God may not be blasphemed:

 

“Paul wanted the older women to teach the younger women

so that their actions would glorify God, build His kingdom,

and strengthen the family. Failure to follow Paul’s instructions

would result in the word of God being maligned in the pagan community.”

~ Nelson’s NKJV Study Bible Commentary

 Ladies, whether you are married or single, I consider myself to be an older woman to my daughters; to teach them. I desire that they know the truth and obey the truth. Therefore, I aim to teach them everything God says that I am supposed to teach them. I also aim to reach out to you too. To truly love and care for your children (future children), to truly love your husband (future husband) and raise a strong godly family, it starts with you being in your home. 

I love that this is already being modeled for my granddaughter. To share a bit of what just happened last week, my granddaughter saw an old photo of me from when I used to work come across my computer. She said, “No. What did I say? Women don’t work!” She is four years old.

Have you ever read A Woman After God’s Own Heart by Elizabeth George? Share your thoughts about it in the comments below. 

 

Be That Woman – The Woman Strong

A Woman of Weakness

 

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We are not independent! Let’s just let that be put out there. From the moment we were created, born into, and have grown up in this world, we have been dependent upon someone and something.

God for the very breath we breathe (and all that is named hereafter). Fathers and mothers for our shelter, food, and clothing as we grew up. Schools so that we could get an education and learn how to make a living. Employers to supply jobs for us to work. Husbands, wives, baby-daddies & baby-mamas, child care providers, government welfare systems, hospitals, churches, grocery stores, clothing manufacturers. THE LIST GOES ON AND ON. Get my drift?

How is it that during the course of all of that we all of a sudden became independent? I hear women say it all the time and it pains me. Even more so, because I used to be one of those women; quick to say that I was independent and needed no one to take care of me. How foolish I was. How foolish it is. Truth be told, we are and or were full of pride, which is a false independence.

It is the same with our strength. We as women also love to boast of how strong we are. “I’m strong and independent!” We say.  But if we stopped and thought about it, considering the obvious above (that we are not independent), do we really have the grounds to stand on in saying that? Here’s something else that needs to be put out there………

 

EVERYTHING WE HAVE AND ARE, WE HAVE IN AND BECAUSE OF GOD. 

 

“For God so loved the world

that He gave His only begotten Son,

that whoever believes in Him

should not perish but have

everlasting life.

~ John 3:16

 

God the Creator of all things is the One who has supplied all that we will ever need (Philippians 4:19). This He has done through Jesus Christ  (John 1:16). So, in answer to the question asked above, “NO,” we do not have the grounds to stand on.

Here are a few things to know about a real strong woman:

  • A strong woman is a woman of weakness (2 Corinthians 13:4).
  • She does not pridefully boast that she is strong, but happily boasts that she is weak (2 Corinthians 12:9).
  • She realizes that she can do nothing by herself (John 15:5).
  • She is not ashamed of having weaknesses because she knows that they provide the avenue for God to show up and show Himself mighty strong in her (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Since the 1960’s “strong” women have been rising up and declaring their strength; a strength that has been laced with so much pride and false independence. And we have all felt the effects of that one way or the other.

But now it’s time for us as godly, faithful, weak women to rise up and show the world what a real strong woman looks like. She a woman who is weak in her flesh but strong in her Christ.

 

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Be That Woman – The Woman Fearless

A Woman of Faith

 

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There’s something to be said about a fearless Christian woman. A fearless Christian woman is a woman of faith. Satan can do nothing with her. With all of the chaos that’s going on in the world around her, she has chosen to not be moved; setting her face like a flint (Isaiah 50:7).

She has grasped the understanding that as a child of God, afflictions will come. Persecutions, trials, and tribulations will come (1 Peter 4:12,13). But God has given her a measure of faith that she intends to use.

So, while not leaning to her own understanding of things, she has made the conscious decision to trust in the Lord with all of her heart. She has chosen to acknowledge Him in all of her ways so that He can direct her paths (Proverbs 3:5,6).

Prayer has become her way of life. Her anchor? The tried and true Word of God (Psalm 18:30).

 

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There is a good and a bad to everything (Ecclesiastes 3). In today’s society, where the world strives to remove all traces of God (which is impossible seeing that He created everything), women being fearless is depicted as women who stand up for the right to do whatever they want when they want. These are women who fight to leave their mark on the world; having their voices heard; making themselves known.

But a fearless Christian woman seeks to only make One person known. That person is Jesus Christ. She doesn’t seek to have her voice heard or known. She seeks to follow and to know His voice (John 10:4,5). For He is the Source of everything to her (Philippians 4:19). She stands for the Truth even if it means that she will have to stand alone (John 8:32,36).

As Christian women, it can never be said that we do not ever have moments that we battle with fear. We do. There are times that we get caught up in walking by sight and not by faith (2 Corinthians 5:7). There are times that we allow our circumstances to hold us back, rather than continuing to press ahead. We become all but fearless.

Yet because of our faith in God, we know, trust, and believe that all things work for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose (Roman 8:28).

 

“Faith is a decision to believe.”

~ Chrystal Evans Hurst

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Be That Woman – The Woman Needed

A Godly Woman

There is a woman that is needed in the world today. And I’m sorry to say that it is not a nasty woman. It is not a woman who wishes to be loud, vulgar and proud. The world does not need women who desire to be offensive, spiteful, ugly, or unpleasant, or hard to deal with. The world has seen enough of these kinds of women.

Because of nasty women, divorce rates are high, families are being torn apart, and innocent lives are being taken. This is not to say that it is all of their faults, but the contribution that they have made to said issues is to be held into account.

It is my belief that nasty women are ungodly women. These are women who have not made God to be the head of their lives, and they go against everything God ordained for His created women to be for.

“Help, LORD, for the godly man (woman) ceases! For the faithful disappear from among the sons of men.” 

~ Psalm 12:1 – Parentheses added by me.

What the world needs are godly women. Women who don’t wish to be the head of their homes or their lives, but who desire to honor God as the Head of their lives. These are women who are the true portrait of femininity. They are:

  • Women who fear the LORD (Proverbs 31:30).
  • Women who are humble (Philippians 2:3-5).
  • Respectful, submissive helpers to their husbands (Genesis 2:18; Ephesians 5:22-24).
  • Builders and keepers of their homes (Proverbs 14:1; Titus 2:4-5).
  • Blessed mothers of children (Proverbs 31:28).
  • Holy in their conduct (1 Peter 1:15).
  • Wise and kind with their speech (Proverbs 31:26).
  • Modest in the way that they dress (Proverbs 31:22).
  •  Willing workers with their hands (Proverbs 31:27).
  • Women who are joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled (Galatians 5:22-23).

Godly women are the kind of women who know that their true worth is not in what they choose to make of themselves while here in the earth, but rather that their worth is in Jesus Christ. Godly women are real women.

Let the real women please rise up!

This is a call to you and I that we are needed. We are needed to shine our lights of true womanhood into the darkness that is in this world; to point the future generations of sons and daughters towards the holiness and righteousness of God. We are needed to teach and guide our children into His ways (Deuteronomy 6:4-9).

Godly women, young and old, this is a call to you to be that woman that the world really needs to see; married or single.

 

“Women of God can never be like women of the world.

The world has enough women who are tough;

we need women who are tender.

There are enough women who are coarse;

we need women who are kind.

There are enough women who are rude;

we need women who are refined.

We have enough women of fame and fortune;

we need more women of faith.

We have enough greed;

we need more goodness.

We have enough vanity;

we need more virtue.

We have enough popularity;

We need more purity.”

~ Margaret Dyreng Nadauld

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“Here’s to godly women. May we know them. May we be them.

May we raise them.” ~ Erica Dunomes